Saturday, August 29, 2009

Self Determination

The best rules for any type of relationship whether you are dealing with kids, mates, friends, or relatives are posted below:

Never expect more from you than you can manage: Expecting more than you can manage makes you an over determined person. You need balance to stay strong.

Do never expect more of your partner or child than you would expect of you: Follow this golden rule will help you develop in a relationship and keep the relationship growing strong.

Accept realization: each of you is adapting to the new changes – work on developing self-actualization to ensure that you can adapt to changes as you progress in self-determination and self-development.

Take advantage of time you can share with your mate and baby – do not forget to spend time with you as well. Spending time with you allows you to assess your inner strengths and weaknesses in order to move through the processes of self-development.

Express your emotions and feelings maturely – expressing your emotions enable you to clear up doubts, confusion, hate, or other negative thoughts that form in the mind. You can work through maturity by adapting to this rule.

Talk with your mate and let him express his feelings also about the new baby, breastfeeding, experiences, sex interests, body changes, and what the two of you feel about being new parents – discussions are healthy. Make sure that you learn and get in the habit of discussion your interests, while listening to the interest of others as well.

Learn to solve problems as a family unit – this will ensure that you have room to grow. When you have a happy family unit, it gives you the room you need to take time out for you and move through the stages of self-determination and self-development.
Discuss changes and your dislikes and likes during your childhood – this is another part of maturity. This rule is a healthy rule that will bring you many benefits. Not only will you feel happy and content, you will also feel in control of your life – and you will stay determined to meet your goals.

Discuss your parent’s upbringing and which mistakes you can learn from them to avoid making the mistake in your relationship and parenthood – it is always healthy to spill out your guts and discuss differences in points of views to create a healthy environment for everyone, including you.

Use nap time to converse and share activities with your mate – conversation is the main skill we have that helps us to build relationships, open our minds up for discoveries, learn something new and more. With good conversation you can exchange ideas, which will help you learn. You make room for discussions, which creates a healthy environment for everyone, including you. This is only part of building the self-determination you will need to live a healthy, productive life.

More tips:
Accept unorganized house care, since it occurs when you have a new baby – spend quality time and try to clean up together – do not spend your time or burn energy nagging or complaining over simple things. Instead keep your self-determination strong by overlooking the things that do not matter.

Work as a team – working, as a team is the only way that each member in your unit will keep the unit growing strong. Take some unity time to discuss self-growth and self-determination, as well as related topics so that all of you can grow together.

Put your priorities in focus as a team – create a list to help you work together – priorities are essential elements we need in life. Priorities keep us focused, determined, and prepared.
Maintain a sense of humor --- life is too difficult not to add a little humor into your life. Do mistake humor as watching a funny program on television; rather open your mind to all aspects before you open your mouth to speak. Think about the positive instead of the negative at all times.